Object Constancy and Borderline Personality Disorder: A Deep Dive

Understanding the nuances of Borderline Personality Disorder (BPD) can often feel like navigating a labyrinth. This article seeks to unravel the concept of 'object constancy' and its link to BPD in a comprehensive, insightful way.

Unpacking Borderline Personality Disorder

BPD is a complex mental health disorder characterized by intense emotional reactions, unstable relationships, an unstable self-image, and impulsive behaviors. One concept that has emerged as particularly relevant in understanding and managing BPD is object constancy.

Understanding Object Constancy

'Object constancy' is a psychological concept that originates from attachment theory. It refers to maintaining an emotional bond with others when they are physically absent or after a disagreement or conflict. It understands that the relationship's value remains constant, even if the person is not immediately present or has temporary negative feelings towards them.

Object Constancy and BPD

People with BPD often struggle with object constancy. This struggle can lead to fears of abandonment, volatile relationships, and extreme reactions to perceived slights or criticisms.

The Impact on Relationships

The lack of object constancy can make relationships particularly challenging for those with BPD. They may struggle to reconcile the positive and negative aspects of the same person. As a result, they may alternate between idealizing their loved ones (when they are present or behaving in ways they like) and devaluing them (when they are absent or engage in behavior they dislike).

Addressing Object Constancy Issues in BPD

Managing issues with object constancy can be a critical part of BPD treatment. Several approaches can be helpful.


Therapy, specifically Dialectical Behavior Therapy (DBT) and Mentalization-Based Treatment (MBT), can help individuals with BPD develop a more nuanced view of others, improving their relationships and emotional stability.

Skill Development

Developing skills to regulate emotions and tolerate distress can improve object constancy. These skills can be learned through various therapeutic approaches and self-help resources.

Support Systems

Having a solid support system can be beneficial for individuals with BPD. This system can provide stability and serve as a practical context to practice and improve relationship skills.

Understanding object constancy can shed new light on the challenges experienced by those with BPD and offer pathways to more stable and fulfilling relationships. With professional help, coping strategies, and support, individuals with BPD can navigate these issues and enhance their well-being.

Grouport Offers BPD Group Supports Online & DBT Skills Group Online

Grouport Therapy offers online Dialectical Behavior Therapy (DBT) group sessions to support individuals coping with Borderline Personality Disorder (BPD). This therapy approach utilizes mindfulness and acceptance to enhance self-awareness and emotional regulation, helping to reduce destructive behaviors and strengthen interpersonal connections. Our virtual group sessions instruct members on incorporating various psychotherapy techniques, such as DBT, into their everyday lives, enabling them to engage with others and express themselves more effectively.

Our qualified therapist conducts weekly group meetings remotely, allowing members to participate from the comfort of their own homes. As reported by participants, 70% witnessed significant progress within 8 weeks.

You don't need to confront these obstacles by yourself. Enroll in one of our courses today to embark on a path toward substantial, enduring transformation and renewed optimism. Become part of our community and collaborate towards a more promising future.

Please note that due to licensing limitations, our online DBT group therapy sessions are exclusively for residents of Florida, New York, and New Jersey. If you reside outside these states, consider joining our dialectical behavior therapy skills group. Led by a therapist-instructor, this online group will equip you with valuable new strategies to replace the behaviors and emotions that hinder your daily life and relationships.

Join a BPD Group Support Session

We offer DBT group therapy online to improve emotion regulation, distress tolerance, mindfulness, & interpersonal skills. Get effective and affordable treatment.

Find my groupFind my groupFind my group

Space is limited, so reserve your seat today.